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The Village




It's Friday  and all I can think of is what a busy week it has been and it's not over yet. You would think I would be used of the hustle and bustle of being a mother, but I'm not. As a mother of a 16 year old, 9 year old and, 14 month old I'm still learning, adjusting and growing. And one never stops learning and growing through the stages of motherhood. People often ask me, " Does it get easier?" I say No, motherhood comes in different stages and each stage has its own set of challenges, joys, setbacks as well as breakthroughs!! I often wonder how it would be if things were 50-50 in terms of needed fatherly assistance and support. But somehow I manage to get through it all with the help of  my support group,  my extended family, whom I like to call "the village", which comes from the African Proverb  "It takes a Village to raise a Child."

It's quite challenging with three children all at different stages in life so my daily routine goes a little something like this :
Up at 5am, make breakfast, pack lunch, wake kids up by 6am, dress youngest, feed kids breakfast, wake up oldest by 7am, call cab then out the house and by the daycare by 7:15am, to work by 8am.
My evening commute home is a little less stressful except when there are scheduled events. Like take this week for example, Wednesday was open school night for my 9 year old Jahtiba. I went straight from work and was so pleased at his progress. He received such great comments from teachers regarding his academics, character and personality. Thursday was Student Led Conferences for Jelani my 16 year old, which my mother and brother attended for me because I was just too exhausted and did not want to bring Jabari my 14 month old along due to him being in the toddler stage. :-) And today, "Yay its Friday, oh wait but I'm a mom," 'cause it's another long day ahead due to Jahtiba's first 4-5th grade dance tonight. After work I will escort him back to the school and pick him up later tonight.

Oh and um, Saturday is not a chill day either as all of us mothers know, motherhood takes no breaks, or sick days. So it's another early morning day to get  Jahtiba to his Guitar, Taekwondo,  and African History classes. On some Saturdays I get my brother to escort him for me which is great so that I can actually relax a bit. But even still there is no such thing as relaxing with a 14 month old!! :-)

In the midst of it all, I am enjoying my children and all of their personalities. On many occasions they make me smile and laugh when I want to cry. I am never alone with them, its always lively and some days are full of fun, laughter and excitement. After all has been said and done when I look back throughout the years I don't know how I've gotten through some of the challenges of motherhood. What I do know is that  my strength is coming from a higher power. Even in the midst of constantly doing, complaining about doing, and throwing tantrums, I manage to get things done. But then again "The Village" never fails me either.




Comments

Temitayo said…
Thanks so much for the comment, you're so right we will miss them when they're gone!!
erickka said…
I couldn't have said it better myself. The life of a mom is as hectic as it gets. And then they turn 18 and we wonder where the time went. So many times I have to catch myself and remind myself that this time will go fast. Man, I've been feeling very melancholy lately...nice post.

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